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Wendy Babcock found dead


Wendy Babcock found dead

Champion for sex workers and trans people remembered
To her friends, Wendy Babcock was a fierce and passionate activist with a joyful sense of humour that defined her, but inside she suffered in silence.

Babcock was found dead in her home Aug 9 of an apparent suicide. She was about 30 years old (her actual age is unclear).

Before becoming a student at York University’s Osgoode Hall Law School, Babcock was a homeless teenaged sex worker. For the past several years she has passionately advocated on behalf of sex workers and has been a prominent voice for trans rights across Canada.

Known for her unwavering compassion and patience, Babcock worked tirelessly on the front lines with some of Toronto's most marginalized street people, says Tori Scout, one of Babcock’s close friends and chosen family.

But a life filled with struggle took its toll and Babcock suffered invisibly, Scout says. The pair met while attending George Brown College’s Assaulted Women's and Children's Counsellor Advocate Program (AWCCA). “She just couldn’t take it anymore. She had a 24-hour support system around her at the time of her death, but it wasn’t enough.”

Her friends call her death an enormous loss to Toronto.

“Wendy was a beautiful person who has been suffering for a long time due to abuse, poverty and the trauma of losing her son,” says Scout. “This woman was a fierce fighter. Her strength is now holding us all together.”

Babcock was forced to surrender her son, Korin, when she was homeless in 2003, Scout says.

“Her son will find out someday how much she loved him,” she says.

Scout says the community as a whole failed Babcock. She was continually denied any information about her son, who is in the care of the Children’s Aid Society (CAS), and devoted her life to getting him back, even giving up sex work. Scout says, “She would have done anything to get him back.”

Danielle Sheppard, who met Babcock working at Maggie’s in 2003, then later at Sex Professionals of Canada (SPOC), says she is still in shock. “It hasn’t hit me yet. Wendy inspired me to become an activist in the first place.”

Sheppard says Babcock was “always an activist.” Armed with sharp wit, Babcock was happy to spend any amount of time answering anyone’s questions on sex work, in an ongoing effort to help people understand that sex workers deserve the same respect and compassion as anyone else.

“She could talk to anyone and always had a funny comeback to disarm even the most conservative,” Sheppard says. “I really hope people continue to fight for what was important to her. We must continue to be vigilant and keep her memory alive.”

Close friend Morgan Page, who is the trans community services coordinator at the 519 Church St Community Centre, says Babcock had just completed the draft of a memoir to coincide with her graduation. Page says Babcock's friends will now work to have the memoir published in her honour.

“What a lot of people are forgetting is that Wendy was just a regular person, but she took a realistic view to sex work. There was no romanticizing it. Some people choose to do sex work, while others are forced to because they have no other option, but all deserve the same respect.”

“She should have been a comedian. She used to say, ‘A blow job is better than no job.’”

Along with numerous outreach projects, Babcock founded the Bad Date Coalition of Toronto, which produces a monthly Bad Date Book to report on violent acts committed against sex workers, including details of attackers.

Babcock also worked at Street Health, a nursing foundation that works with homeless people in the city. There, she worked in partnership with Regent Park on the Safer Stroll Project, a sex worker and crack user drop-in.

Former mayor David Miller presented Babcock with Toronto’s inaugural Public Health Champion award in 2008, which recognizes outstanding individuals who make outstanding contributions to protecting and promoting the health of Toronto residents.

“Wendy broke new ground and blazed a trail,” says Nikki Thomas, from SPOC. “She was always open and honest about her history with everyone, and that took a lot of courage. She pushed rights for sex workers forward.”

Through her outreach work, Babcock also partnered with the Toronto Police Service to ensure sex workers can report assault without fear of prosecution. “She created changes within the police force. She really made police more sensitive to these issues,” Scout says.

Just this year, Babcock joined Lover Magazine, North America's first women's sexuality magazine, as a writer on sex-work issues.

A community meeting has been planned to organize a memorial service and funeral for Babcock. The meeting will be held at The 519 on Aug 12 at 5:30pm.

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But why would she do it now? After all her years of misery? Well, a theory. She marched into the womb of power and privilege in this province, past the hollow rhetoric of fairness and justice and right into reality. Eying her privilege classmates, how easy it was for them, with their rich supportive families and positive outlook on life. Born on third base and thinking they hit a home run. Here, she realized, it was all a facade, even at the "prestigious" Osgoode Hall. Professor Young was an exception, not a rule, and despite his authenticity she could just not handle the truth about the rest. It was all a sham she must have wondered. RIP.
parroting the obvious
She was a wonderful person, a beautiful girl and a deep beautiful soul. She would have been a wonderful mother if given the chance. Nothing will make me think otherwise. So there!
This user is slandering the subject mentioned in this story - a dead person, at that! - and repeatedly posting the same comments over and over in this forum. True, the poster has a right to her opinion, and I guess some people really do not have any class, but to incite emotion on a thread pertaining to someone who took their own life is beyond the pale.
Adoption if a beautiful thing
Thank goodness her son was removed from her reckless life. Adoption is a beautiful thing for a child in need of a stable life. It's a pity some kids have to linger on with children's aid because biological parents put their needs first. This woman sounded like a horror for her son.
Really saddened!
What a beautiful and special girl!
I personally remember Wendy leaving home against her parents will at the age of 16.
She lived in a group where she was supported by the government (welfare) and her parents. Her Dad took her out for dinner once a week. I never remember her being homeless or prostituting.
Homeless at age 11????
If you dug deep, you would discover the discrepancies within Wendy’s stories. For example, Wendy says she was homeless at age 11.

This isn’t true and I know this because I met her on July 2, 1991 at Clairville Riding Camp when she was 12. We were friends for 18 months. I visited her home often and even saw her room. She was still living at home at age 13 in January 1993.

If Wendy was homeless at age 11, then how did she get the money to go to an expensive riding camp?

I have journal entries and pictures to prove my friendship with Wendy during the summer of 1991 if you need to see them for yourself.
Reading the vitriolic comments on this story comes really close to convincing me the internet has been a mistake all along.
sometimes too much is too much
There was no offence taken, merely weariness of Rich's extensive rants about e-v-e-r-y-t-h-i-n-g. I knew Wendy. I'm sorry she's gone. I'm glad Rich has conquered his depression, or is working on it. I too have grappled with depression. There should be more community resources to deal with it. In case you can't read, what I wrote was: Sometimes a few words from loved ones means more than an off topic lengthy “thesis” from a stranger. So Rich may be still healing himself with his long rants, but sometimes too much is too much. This story was about Wendy not about Rich. I don't need a response.


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