Sean Cody’s flip-flop fucking

There’s a reason bare- backing has never found its way into Porndoggy columns. Generally speaking, it’s not something I — or anyone who’s written this column before me — approve of. I consider barebacking to be the sexual equivalent of Crocs: not something I’m into, but I realize not everyone is in the same situation as I am, so I can’t, and won’t, force my opinion on others.

That being said, you can’t walk around in Crocs while simultaneously denouncing their weird, plastic existence, because that would just be hypocritical. And for the same reason, you can’t produce a bareback scene and then tell everyone you don’t endorse condom-free porn.

So you can probably understand why the folks at Sean Cody found themselves under fire after launching their very first bareback scene. Despite being a strictly safer-sex website for years, Sean Cody kicked off the new year by announcing a three-way that would, for the first time since Sean Cody’s inception, not include any condoms.

The part that raised my eyebrows was the notice used to preface the scene:

“In order to create this film our models underwent strict screening for HIV and other STDs. Our studio used the RNA by PCR test, which is the most effective test available.

“Unprotected sex is not something we recommend or endorse, even if you’re in a relationship.”

Huh?

Look, it’s good to see they meticulously tested their models before they shot the scene, but I think technically speaking, producing, filming and distributing a porn scene involving unprotected sex is probably as blatant an endorsement as you can give.

I don’t take offence so much to the fact it’s a bareback scene. Once again, not really something I advocate for health reasons, but I don’t resent anyone who does it. Let’s face it: those in the adult industry are adults, and I have met some performers who are well aware of the risks and do as much as they can to counteract them (aside from condom use). The ability to have the sex life you want without others imposing judgment is a two-way street. I’ll take my condoms; they take bareback. I do my thing; they do theirs.

What irks me here is that Sean Cody’s people are trying to have their cake and dump a load in it, too. I couldn’t say I don’t endorse unprotected sex and then perform in a barebacking scene or get raw-dogged to kingdom cum in my personal life. You can’t play both sides of the field, because that’s not how the game works. It’s a pretty transparent cop-out, to say the least. But mostly, it’s just disappointing to watch people try to talk out of both sides of their asses.

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